by mohammadalamin584@gmail.com | Aug 3, 2024 | #ICAN stories
The universe has a unique way of sending us messages.
This time last year, I received a message that I wasn’t expecting.
The work I invested 7 years building no longer requires me.
So when my job left me, I dived straight into searching for my next purpose and identity.
I spent weeks scouring job postings on LinkedIn to find my answers.
When I studied each impressive job description, I felt numb inside.
Each time I asked myself,
if today is my last, would I be happy doing any of those listed tasks?
By last September, I began to understand the universe’s message.
I was looking for a different answer.
At 48, it was not a decision I took lightly.
That was me finding the courage to walk away from what could be my last chance at an ideal corporate role.
I didn’t know what my future holds.
But I knew it would not be about me.
With a leap of faith, I left my comfort nest to restart from ground zero.
I made a promise this new chapter will transcend my personal story.
It will be about helping others find fulfilment and become their best selves.
This vision led to Positive Minds, my coaching practice dedicated to bringing others’ stories to life.
In this new chapter, I want to be a Growth Mindset Coach.
I will dedicate my time to helping others find their hashtag#ICAN and thrive with confidence and courage.
hashtag#ICAN is the power of trusting ourselves.
It represents our ability to overcome challenges and thrive.
When we truly believe in our potential to grow and succeed.
Even when our world doubts us.
The same mentality that pulled me from the grasp of being labelled a ‘no hoper’ at 15, to overcoming many ‘mountains’ in my career and personal life in more ways than I had hoped for.
Today, I am proud to invite you into the home of Positive Minds.
This is more than just a digital storefront.
It is …
→ who I am and what I stand for.
→ my extended hand to join me in embracing the spirit of hashtag#ICAN.
→ my open invitation to those by the sidelines, to step into their power and rewrite their own stories
This took 7 months in the making.
The most difficult part wasn’t the technicality.
It was overcoming myself to rediscover who I am meant to be.
I choose to believe every message has a reason.
Our power is in the choices we make. 👊
by mohammadalamin584@gmail.com | Jul 29, 2024 | Career
When does good become → great?
Often, when we encounter challenges, we take on the burden alone by spending time and money on self-help solutions.
As we do that, our obstacles become 10x more overwhelming as time passes.
Doubts creep in and we question our ability to make positive changes.
A vicious cycle starts and we give up.
A misconception about coaching is that it’s to fix our flaws and weaknesses.
Here’s the fact:
𝐂𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐢𝐱; 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝. 👊
Coaching is designed to help you achieve desired results faster and more sustainably without fighting your battles alone.
Here are 5 reasons why coaching can be your UNFAIR ADVANTAGE towards self-mastery. 🚀
𝟏. 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫
→ We are hardwired to believe we are right. A coach examines your beliefs and biases to identify blind spots and conflicting self-talk.
🌟While others remain stuck, you act with confidence.
𝟐. 𝐒𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫
→ Your dedicated guide to support you in finding your answers and succeeding.
🌟That’s when you turn wishes into wins with courage.
𝟑. 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐀𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬
→ Uncover your strengths and inner barriers in a safe and non-judgmental space.
🌟When you can be honest with yourself, you’ll unlock your true potential with motivation.
𝟒. 𝐎𝐩𝐞𝐧 𝐮𝐩 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬
→ We don’t know what we don’t know.
🌟While others stay in the present, you’ll move forward with clarity.
𝟓. 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
→ Accelerate your growth and development.
🌟While others detour, you’ll overtake with purpose.
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Coaching empowers you to achieve goals that are important to you.
→ To step out from ‘I wish I could…’
🌟To live, achieve and enjoy more in life the way you want.
Success is a result of our choices. 🌱
Your coach could be the missing catalyst that pushes you from good → great. 😉
Do you agree? Share with us!
by mohammadalamin584@gmail.com | Jul 29, 2024 | Mindset
As Psychologist Dr Albert Ellis calls it, stop ‘must-urbating’ with ourselves, and ‘should-ing’ on others.
Expectations are our strong beliefs of what must or should happen from our interactions with the world.
They shape our perceptions of events and people, leading to disappointment when reality falls short of what we desire.
Our relationships are largely influenced by exchanges of such expectations, which come in 2 primary forms.
𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬:
We MUST keep pace with others
→ we feel disappointed when we can’t achieve the same.
𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬:
Others SHOULD act like us
→ we feel frustrated when they don’t exhibit the same values and behaviours.
One of our most challenging relationships influenced by expectations is the one with our bosses.
In the past 2 weeks, 3 people I worked with presented a similar challenge from their workplace:
‘My boss is terrible and it’s frustrating! He/she is not acting like how a leader should.
While I am doing XYZ for my team, my boss contributes nothing besides managing up! This creates tension in our relationship’.
So it was fitting that I attended a workshop last Saturday to study how our expectations impact our relationships as part of my Transformational Life Coaching certification.
𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰:
Expectations shape our perceptions. 😐
They influence our behaviours, often triggered by emotions.
This affects the context and roles in the relationship through our actions.
When you feel disappointed with others …
𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐝𝐨:
Ask yourself:
→ How are your expectations helping you in this situation
→ Reflect on where your expectations of others come from
→ Are they realistic given the other person’s context
→ How are they affecting your well-being
→ How can you adjust your expectations
→ What would detaching bring
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When we are too caught up in our expectations,
it stops us from making decisions that are best for our well-being.
By learning to adjust our expectations and focusing on what we can control, we free ourselves from relying on others’ actions for our happiness. 💓
“Our happiness grows in direct proportion to our acceptance,
and in inverse proportions to our expectations.” – Anonymous
📌 So, what would you do differently FOR YOUR HAPPINESS today?
