by mohammadalamin584@gmail.com | Aug 3, 2024 | Events, Mindset
Your dreams are worth the effort, even when no one is cheering.
Here’s why.
This week, I had coaching sessions with 3 different clients. Each is a young executive in their 30s with big dreams. To build their business as a solopreneur or to become the leader they aspire to be.
One recurring theme emerged.
” ๐ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏโ๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฌ ๐ ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ถ๐จ๐ฉ. ๐๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฐ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ”
“๐ ๐ต๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐ฏ๐ฐ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ถ๐ญ๐ต๐ด. ๐๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ช๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ.”
As we brace ourselves for “๐๐ธ๐ช๐ง๐ต๐ช๐ฆ๐ด๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐ช๐ข” sweeping across Singapore starting this weekend, I was reminded that every success began with a humble beginning that no one seemed to care about. Even if you are Taylor Swift.
For anyone who is pursuing your dreams in building, creating, improving or learning something newโฆ
This is for you. ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด! ๐
๐ก
“๐๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฑ ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ฏ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ด ๐ธ๐ข๐ต๐ค๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ฅ๐ข๐บ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ธ๐ช๐ญ๐ญ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ณ๐ท๐ฆ๐ญ ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ๐ช๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ฅ.” – Unknown
๐ฃ๐ฆ: ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐? ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐บ๐?
Tell us in comment. โฌ
by mohammadalamin584@gmail.com | Aug 3, 2024 | Mindset, Programs
Research suggests the average adult spends 4 hours a day in self-talk.
Thatโs 25% of our waking hours each day!
Sounds familiar?
๐ข Yes, this is the little voice in our heads that yells for our attention all day.
The same voice with an opinion on our experiences, decisions, and events in our lives.
These โ๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐๐จโ, โ๐ ๐๐๐ฃโ๐ฉโ, โ๐โ๐ข ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐ง๐๐๐๐ฎโ ๐ค๐ง โ๐ ๐จ๐๐ค๐ช๐ก๐ โ statements we repeatedly tell ourselves can shape our beliefs and affect our confidence.
Over time, we feel overwhelmed by these repeated playbacks of the worst outcomes, our fears and past mistakes.
This can lead to self-sabotaging habits such as chasing perfection, self-judgement, procrastination and the fear of starting something new.
๐ฆ๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ป๐ฒ๐ด๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ?ย ๐ถ
The first step is to recognize our thought patterns.
If you are โฆ
โย in constant negative thoughts about past mistakes
โย having overwhelmingly negative self-talk
โย frequently distracted by your thoughts
โย stuck in a loop of overthinking
โย avoiding new tasks
But our self-talk isnโt necessarily always negative.
We can turn this inner voice into a source of motivation to remind us of our strengths and encourage us to push through obstacles or uncertainties.
โ Hereโs how I can help when you are ready:
Creating personalized reframing strategies that:
transform your self-talk from a voice that drains you
โย to a force that empowers you with confidence.
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Our self-talk is the most important narrative in our lives.
When we control our narratives, we can control our lives.
And yes, you can.ย ๐
by mohammadalamin584@gmail.com | Jul 29, 2024 | Mindset
As Psychologist Dr Albert Ellis calls it, stop ‘must-urbating’ with ourselves, and ‘should-ing’ on others.
Expectations are our strong beliefs of what must or should happen from our interactions with the world.
They shape our perceptions of events and people, leading to disappointment when reality falls short of what we desire.
Our relationships are largely influenced by exchanges of such expectations, which come in 2 primary forms.
๐๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ฏ๐๐ฌ:
We MUST keep pace with others
โ we feel disappointed when we canโt achieve the same.
๐๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ฌ:
Others SHOULD act like us
โ we feel frustrated when they donโt exhibit the same values and behaviours.
One of our most challenging relationships influenced by expectations is the one with our bosses.
In the past 2 weeks, 3 people I worked with presented a similar challenge from their workplace:
โMy boss is terrible and itโs frustrating! He/she is not acting like how a leader should.
While I am doing XYZ for my team, my boss contributes nothing besides managing up! This creates tension in our relationshipโ.
So it was fitting that I attended a workshop last Saturday to study how our expectations impact our relationships as part of my Transformational Life Coaching certification.
๐๐๐ซ๐โ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ:
Expectations shape our perceptions. ๐
They influence our behaviours, often triggered by emotions.
This affects the context and roles in the relationship through our actions.
When you feel disappointed with others …
๐๐๐ซ๐โ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ง ๐๐จ:
Ask yourself:
โ How are your expectations helping you in this situation
โ Reflect on where your expectations of others come from
โ Are they realistic given the other personโs context
โ How are they affecting your well-being
โ How can you adjust your expectations
โ What would detaching bring
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When we are too caught up in our expectations,
it stops us from making decisions that are best for our well-being.
By learning to adjust our expectations and focusing on what we can control, we free ourselves from relying on othersโ actions for our happiness. ๐
โOur happiness grows in direct proportion to our acceptance,
and in inverse proportions to our expectations.โ โ Anonymous
๐ So, what would you do differently FOR YOUR HAPPINESS today?
